Stay Bump-to-Date! My 38 WEEK Bumpdate

38 Weeks Pregnant

Happy FULL TERM to our baby girl! We are officially in the, “Okay, you can come any time now!” stage. We both think we jinxed her early arrival by speculating about it so much- we are now fully expecting her to show up AFTER her due date (and probably close to my own birthday!).

^^^I wrote that yesterday, before my appointment. At the doctors today (Tuesday), he said that I am 1cm dilated and Emily’s head is very low. The effacement (how low her head is in my cervix) is the MOST important, as that shows that labor is imminent. Dilation can go from 0-10 overnight…. there is a high high chance we could be welcoming a baby this week!

  • HOW FAR ALONG? 38 weeks and 4 days!
  • DUE DATE? September 19th, but the doctor said to get ready…
  • SIZE?: About 7lbs, possibly a few ounces over.
  • WEIGHT GAIN? I gained back my weight from last week +one. I weighed in at 165 this week! My uterus, baby, placenta, and fluid take up 90% of that weight.
  • NAME? Emily Ruth Whiteley ❤
  • HOW AM I FEELING?: Energized! From last week to this week I have felt a POWER SURGE of energy. On Sunday, we deep cleaned the entire house (something we haven’t done in literal months). It was so nice to get the house all ready for Emily’s arrival! Today, I hit a wall of exhaustion. I think she’s finally getting ready to pop!
  • CRAVINGS?: Poptarts… which I forgot to pick up from the grocery store today.
  • AVERSIONS?: None!
  • PHYSICAL CHANGES?: More red stretch marks on my belly and sides. I didn’t start getting them on my belly until her big weight gain and until she turned upside-down, but they are certainly there now!
  • BABY MOVEMENT?: I seriously thought she would have stopped by now, but nooooo. Saturday and Sunday she was moving like she was 30 weeks and not about to come out.
  • BELLY BUTTON?: Flat flat flat.
  • MOST EXCITED ABOUT?: Getting this baby out of me!
  • LEAST EXCITED ABOUT?: Getting this baby out of me.
  • PRENATAL VITAMINS?: I am taking One A Day Women’s Prenatal Advanced Multivitamin with Brain Support. They’re great! There is a separate vitamin for Folic Acid, an important Vitamin B that promotes cell development and growth. You can find these on Amazon here!
  • SKINCARE?: I have naturally veryyyy oily skin. For the first 6 months of pregnancy, my skin cleared up of any oils and acne. It was amazing! Once I hit the third trimester, my skin decided to revolt. My pores became clogged again, my skin was slick, and I didn’t know how to combat it. My sister turned me onto these products:
    • Youth to the People Superfood Antioxidant Cleanser. This cleanser from Sephora is a GAME CHANGER! 1. It smells heavenly. 2. The formula of the cleanser makes my skin soft and leaves off the oils for hours. My skin already feels cleaner after using it for only a few weeks. I use it in the morning and pair it with…
    • CeraVé Daily Moisturizing Lotion. This moisturizer brings back color and life into my skin. It’s not heavy and absorbs right into your pores for a healthy glow.
    • At night, I use CeraVé Hydrating Facial Cleanser. This cleanser helps get all of the first and grime from throughout the day off of my face. It’s the perfect cleanser for the evening as it assists in taking off makeup, AND it’s fragrance free!

1.5 weeks out from her due date… any guesses on when she will show up???

8 Second Trimester Must-Haves

As I begin to close out my second trimester, I have started reflecting on the last 3 months. So many amazing things happened! We saw our baby move for the first time, we moved across the country (with all our belongings, 2 cars, and 2 cats) to start our life on the east coast, and we got married. What?! It’s so hard to believe that all of this happened in the last 13 weeks.

Looking back on what was an amazing time, I pinpointed moments where I thought, “Hey, I could have used more of this” or “I wish I knew how much I would need that”. I know now I will be extra prepared for baby #2 (when that comes along).

I created a list of second trimester MUST HAVES for moms currently pregnant or trying to get pregnant. Hopefully, this will ease your mind a bit when making those mid-afternoon Target runs.

1. All of the dresses

Amazon dress and Blowfish slip-ons

Seriously! You want to stock your closet with dresses, especially if you are going to be pregnant during the late spring/summer months. I don’t think I have ever owned as many dresses as I do now. Your second trimester is when your bump really starts to take off, and people will stop wondering if you just had that extra large pizza for lunch. Some women prefer loose, t-shirt style dresses, while I prefer the more form-fitting ones (I like showing off my bump). Either way, dresses are going to be much more comfortable than jeans and shorts ever will. My favorite dresses come from Amazon and Target. You can actually find them in my latest post, What’s a Mom to Wear?

2. Comfortable shoes

Blowfish Slip-ons

Before pregnancy, I took all of my footwear for granted. Being in theater and being on my feet all of the time, you would think I would have learned that shoes are the most important part of your wardrobe, and they certainly were for me!… except I wore heels 80% of the time. Now that my feet and ankles are starting to slightly swell, I have begun leaning more towards shoes such as Keds or Blowfish. They are both two really great brands that include memory foam insoles and are just really comfortable to wear whether you’re going to the grocery store or going for a walk up and down the street.

3. dōTERRA Deep Blue® Rub

This back cream has been a LIVE SAVER throughout my pregnancy, but certainly throughout the second trimester. dōTERRA Deep Blue® Rub is infused with essential oils such as Wintergreen, Peppermint, Blue Chamomile, and more. It penetrates the muscles and leaves your skin tingling after application. This is the perfect cream to have my husband (willingly) rub on my lower back at bedtime, as it helps loosen up the muscles and allow any small knots to work themselves out during my sleep. 10/10 will ALWAYS recommend.

4. Snacks on snacks on snacks

Easy Cheese

Pregnancy cravings. Don’t let anyone fool you… they are REAL! During the past few weeks, my cravings have been few and far between, but once something is mentioned that I want, I can’t get my mind off of it until it is in my stomach. A few weeks ago, while watching Guy’s Grocery Games, the contestants were challenged to use canned spray cheese in their dish. You know- the disgusting, fake, amazingly delicious cheddar cheese spray from our childhood. I could not get it out of my head until this past week when my mother and sister came to visit and brought 2 cans of that ooey goodness with them. Thanks, guys!

5. A Meal Delivery Service

Mozzarella Crusted Chicken

While I love going to the grocery store as much as the next person, I don’t necessarily want to cook all of the food I buy. It’s difficult to find the right meals for dinner and to have to go to the store and try to find each and every individual ingredient to make that dish. More often than not, these meals will take well over an hour to make. We found solace in HelloFresh. HelloFresh is a meal kit delivery service that is customizable to your lifestyle AND your budget. A normal week for us (a family plan with 3 meals at 2 servings a piece) is roughly $60 per week. We are able to remove and add meals as we please, dependant on what is being offered that week. We also have the ability to skip as many weeks in a row as week want. This is perfect for weeks where we are traveling a lot or weeks where we would rather be grilling and hanging out outside. HelloFresh has been the perfect way to introduce new and easy meals into our lives as we prepare to feed what we assume will be a very fussy baby.

6. Pregnancy Pillows

Pregnancy Pillow from BB&B

I will be the first one to admit that I took pregnancy pillows for granted. My mother tried to buy me one near the end of my first trimester, but I declined, saying that I didn’t need one. Once I wasn’t able to sleep on my stomach or my back anymore, having a king0sized pillow in between my legs or up against my back became necessary. Putting the pillow in between my legs allowed the pressure to be taken off of my lower back and gave comfort to my knees. Having the king-sized pillow at my front allowed me to curl up against something other than my husband, who doesn’t like to cuddle during sleep. While I only have a large pillow for this pregnancy, I will be investing in a pregnancy pillow for my second.

7. Water

That’s it. Just water. Stay hydrated, mama!

8. A hobby

Dealing with both unemployment and a pandemic during my pregnancy hasn’t been easy. With a husband who goes into work every day (lucky duck, he is), I needed something to entertain myself. I have picked back up my love of painting during the last few months, and this has been a wonderful way to express some creativity as well as pass the time during the day. I also do a LOT of house work. Dishes, laundry, the works. Find a hobby that you love, whether it be a long, forgotten one, or a brand new one!

I am excited to enter the third trimester. I am looking forward to the next leg of this journey, and the next 3 months until we get to meet our baby girl.

26.5 Weeks Pregnant, wearing Motherhood Maternity top and shorts

What’s a Mom to Wear?

Never in a million years would I have thought that my maternity wardrobe would be the most important wardrobe I have!

I’ll admit, I got a little finger trigger happy early on in my pregnancy and bought maternity clothes when I certainly didn’t need them yet. Being a first time mom, I expected my stomach to balloon up within the first 2 months, and I ordered just like that. In truth, I didn’t start getting a real pregnancy belly until about week 16 or 17, 4 months into my pregnancy.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I wore the tiny crap out of those maternity clothes! I wear them even better now that there is a belly to fill those shirts and dresses.

I spent a lot of time choosing maternity clothes and exploring different websites for the best clothes AND the best deals. But let’s be real… if it’s cute, I’m buying it!

When shopping for any wardrobe, it’s important to keep the must-haves in mind. Many people call this a “capsule wardrobe“. If you are a shopaholic like me, this helps to clear our your wardrobe while only keeping the essentials, and keeping items that you can mix and match every day of the week.

Lady DeCluttered Summer 2019 Capsule

I LOVE clothes. Like, love! I have always been one to shop high-end at low-budget stores (Target, Kohls, and sometimes even WalMart). I found it very difficult at the beginning of ny pregnancy to find maternity clothing that was both hella cute and hella affordable. I scoured the internet trying to find outfits that I could wear both throughout the 7 more months of my pregnancy and postpartum. I am ALL for versitile!

The first website I stumbled upon was Motherhood Maternity. Motherhood ofers a wide variety of maternity fashion, but it really hits home with the basics. I was able to get some amazing Secret Fit Belly jeans and jeggings, nursing bras (which are the most comfortable bras I have EVER worn), Graphic Tees, and Scooped Neck Maternity Tank Tops for a very inexpensive price. Check out the gallery below for photos of my favorite Motherhood items!

As I was searching for clothes a little higher priced, I found Pink Blush. Pink Blush is AMAZING because they not only have a plethora of maternity clothes, but they also have a section for non-pregnant women. Their clothes are perfect for during pregnancy and after, so I know that they will get the proper use out of them. Pink Blush is great for baby shower dresses and flowy, patterened pants. I even got the dress I got married in from Pink Blush! Check out the gallery below for photos of my favorite Pink Blush items!

Now that I had a few basics and a few special occasion picks out of the way, it was time to get the clothes that would get me through the hot New England summer- clothes that would be able to be easy to put on, versitile, be used after pregnancy, but still retain their cuteness. I went to Target and Amazon for those picks. It took a bit of sleuthing to find, but the simple, side-rouched dresses as these two stores were PERFECT and were exactly what I was looking for. Amazon had a dress that came in over 20 different patterns and colors, so you know I stocked up on those. I paired these simple dresses with some crop tops I found on Amazon, just to give it that extra touch. Target had great dresses with the same fit and feel, but ones that I wasn’t able to find on Amazon. Check out the gallery below for photos of my favorite Target and Amazon dresses!

Now is time for the most important part- shoes! Finding the right pregnancy shoe is like finding a needle in a haystack. Halfway through the second trimester, your feet start to ache and swell from all of the blood rushing through your veins, and when going on those long pregnancy walks, it’s important to make sure your feet are taken care of. My mother recommended Blowfish! Blowfish is a California-based footwear company whose main goals are creating shoes that are both comfortable and affordable. They draw inspiration from European and Asian culture and combine that with creativity to create their shoes. My go-to shoe is the Marley It comes in almost 20 different colors, and features elastic and canvas to make your feet feel like they aren’t even wearing shoes!

Don’t Kick the Bucket List!

A Bucket List isn’t just a popular movie with Morgan Freeman and Jack Nicholson. A bucket list is a list of things you want to accomplish before you, well, kick the bucket! The term “bucket list” hasn’t been around very long, assuming to have been coined by screenwriter Justin Zackham for the 2007 film of the same name.

There is not just one kind of bucket list! The most popular ones are for travel, ex. visit all 50 states (certainly one of mine), but there are also bucket lists for learning new skills, trying new foods, milestones in life, and more. You can check out other bucket lists online, such as this one here, or you can be 100% creative and write up your own.

You can find my bucket list below, which I will update as items get completed or new ones pop up.

  • Go on an Alaskan cruise
  • Tour Europe and follow the trail of WWII
  • Go zip lining (anywhere- I have a huge fear of heights!)
  • Play a round of paintball
  • Go skydiving
  • Stay at Giraffe Manor in Kenya
  • Explore a volcano (active or inactive)
  • Explore the Galapagos Islands
  • See the Northern Lights
  • Visit every state in the US (I have been to 32!)
  • Go to the top of the Eiffel Tower (I’ve been to Paris, but again, I’m afraid of heights!)
  • Go to the top of a lighthouse
  • Become fluent in ASL and French
  • Learn how to play poker
  • Play in the WSOP with Connor
  • Get a master’s degree (currently in progress!)
  • Buy a house
  • Take a cruise across the Atlantic
  • Attend a Superbowl
  • Practice yoga or meditation and create a routine
  • Join a book club
  • Get in shape after Emily is born
  • Read every book/play I own before buying a new one
  • Become a Diamond member for Royal Caribbean (only 162 points to go!)
  • Attend the Westminster Dog Show
  • Attend the Oscars or the Tony Awards